Two ethical dilemmas potentially faced by a family whom the wife has colon cancer and the son is a 24 year downs. The wife mainly cared for him and the husband is lost and depression and has been drinking

Answer 1

Ethical for whom?

1. Lady needs treatment for cancer, that is the first priority.
2. "has been drinking" is a meaningless statement. "lost and depression" makes no sense. Man needs to see a doctor. Is the depression treatable with drugs? if so, treat. If he is an alcoholic, that is another issue.
3. Kid needs a new caretaker.

I am not certain I see issues of Ethics here, unless you are in the current crop of radical politicians that say forget them all, they have no economic potential.