When considering whether to comment that his friend looks tired, Xavier can reflect on the following criteria:
A. Is it helpful?
- Commenting that someone looks tired might not be helpful and could potentially make them feel self-conscious. Instead of offering support or positivity, it might draw attention to something they are already aware of.
B. Is it true?
- If he genuinely believes that she looks tired, this statement may be true. However, truth should be balanced with sensitivity.
C. Is it kind?
- It may not be considered kind to point out something that could be perceived negatively about someone’s appearance, even if it's true.
D. Is it necessary?
- It's usually unnecessary to comment on someone's appearance in this way, especially if it doesn't contribute to a positive conversation or support.
Considering these criteria, it may be better for Xavier to refrain from making that comment. Instead, he could offer a supportive or encouraging message instead.