If Xavier is considering commenting that his friend looks tired, he might ask himself the following questions:
- Do I know if she's been getting enough rest? - If he knows she’s been busy or stressed, this might lead to a “yes.”
- Have I noticed her looking more fatigued than usual? - If he’s observed a change in her appearance recently, he might answer “yes.”
- Would she appreciate me being honest about my observation? - If he thinks she values honesty, he might feel inclined to say “yes.”
- Am I concerned for her well-being? - If he genuinely cares about her and thinks she might not be fine, this could be a “yes.”
- Have I checked in with her about how she's feeling lately? - If he has not, he might recognize he should have done so, leading to a “yes.”
- Is my comment likely to be taken the wrong way? - If he’s unsure, this might cause him to hesitate, but if he thinks it will be received well, it’s a “yes.”
By reflecting on these questions, Xavier can determine whether or not to make the comment and how to approach it sensitively.