Why might Elizabeth write a poem that blames her "care" for the failure of the relationship?

Question

I can't figure this one out, Poetry has always been tough for me.

I would appreciate the help, thanks!

Answer 1

Here's the actual poem
I grieve and dare not show my discontent,
I love and yet am forced to seem to hate,
I do, yet dare not say I ever meant,
I seem stark mute but inwardly do prate.
I am and not, I freeze and yet am burned,
Since from myself another self I turned.

My care is like my shadow in the sun,
Follows me flying, flies when I pursue it,
Stands and lies by me, doth what I have done.
His too familiar care doth make me rue it.
No means I find to rid him from my breast,
Till by the end of things it be supprest.

Some gentler passion slide into my mind,
For I am soft and made of melting snow;
Or be more cruel, love, and so be kind.
Let me or float or sink, be high or low.
Or let me live with some more sweet content,
Or die and so forget what love ere meant.

Answer 2

"my care" = the person she loves (cares for)

Answer 3

But why would she write the a poem that blames her lover for the failure on the relationship?

Answer 4

Where does she express that idea?

Answer 5

I've got it. I thought it was mainly because she constantly complains how unhappy she is in the 2nd and 3rd Stanza, and how fragile she is.

Answer 6

Stanza 1: I love him but I cannot show it. I must turn away from him. (You know why, right?)

Stanza 2: My love is always with me, and I love him completely. I will always love him; only death can "rid him from" my heart.

Stanza 3: She sometimes can express her love for him, but sometimes she cannot. She wishes she could live more contentedly and show her love, or die so she wouldn't hurt so much.

Answer 7

Right. If she weren't queen, they could love openly.

Answer 8

Thank you very much.

Yes, I know why.

Answer 9

Oh, good!

You're welcome. =)