Why do I feel lonely or alone?
There are times when I feel connected to others, then other times when I feel very alone, even lonely to states of despair. Then it goes away, comes back, in cycles. Why is this?
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I think a person feels alone according to a belief or thought process that can manifest in different ways. Either by not being alone enough or by being alone and not feeling connected to the people places and things that once were the norm. Being alone is a necessary phase to becoming an authentic expression of ourself. Most of society is built around trying to avoid pain, but if we never experience pain, how do we know we are alive. Well, we can also feel alone because society says we shouldn't feel pain, we should be happy almost at all times, an impossible and futile goal. Growth is a better option in the long run. It is pain and sadness which addresses those parts of the shadow self that help us realize what is and would make us happy. So in essence, society has created a system which oppressed people by ostracizing them for feeling pain, sadness, or loneliness, instead of supporting it as natural and a means of seeking the happiness and wholeness within.
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