Which would be an appropriate way to use the DECIDE tool in response to research suggesting that there are differences between the way men and women communicate?

Question

1.Define your communication goal regardless of the differences.
2. Not evaluate the differences because men and women are essentially the same.
3. Evaluate the content and relational feedback.
4. Evaluate and use the information to adapt your communication to the receiver and situation

I am thinking 1? Possibly 4?