Navigating a conversation after taking a break can be challenging, especially when it involves expressing your feelings. Here’s an approach you might consider for your discussion:
Start with Affirmation
"I want to start by saying that I really do love you. That’s why it’s important for me to have this conversation."
Acknowledge Their Feelings
"I know you love me too, and I appreciate that you would never intentionally hurt me. It means a lot to me."
Express Your Feelings
"However, I’ve been feeling pretty overwhelmed lately and stressed out in our relationship. It’s made it hard for me to be the partner you deserve. I’m afraid that my stress has caused me to be less kind and more distant, and that’s not fair to you."
Discuss the Secretive Feeling
"I’ve also been feeling like our relationship is somewhat of a secret. It makes me feel undervalued and not fully appreciated, and that’s been weighing heavily on me. I want to be with you openly and confidently, not as if I’m hiding a part of my life."
Talk About the Humor
"Additionally, some of the jokes we share have been bothering me. Humor is important in a relationship, but I think some of those jokes can be hurtful or make me feel uncomfortable. I’d love if we could have a conversation about this to find common ground."
Suggest Moving Forward
"I think taking a break was a necessary step for me to reflect and understand my feelings. I want to ensure that when we come back together, it’s in a healthier way for both of us. I want us to communicate openly, nurture each other, and create a relationship where we both feel valued and supported."
Invite Their Thoughts
"What do you think about what I’ve said? I really want to hear how you’re feeling on this too."
It's important to be honest and open while also fostering a space for dialogue. Effective communication can lead to a clearer understanding of each other's feelings and needs. Good luck!