In Maya Angelou's "Finishing School," Angelou initially feels sorry for Mrs. Cullinan because she perceives her as a lonely and somewhat fragile woman who relies heavily on her social status and wealth, which ultimately seem to isolate her. Mrs. Cullinan's attitude towards Angelou and her eagerness to display her upper-class lifestyle also elicit a sense of pity from Angelou, as it reflects a certain emptiness and lack of genuine connection in Mrs. Cullinan's life.
Angelou's attitude begins to change when she recognizes Mrs. Cullinan's condescension and racism. This realization transforms her pity into anger and resentment. When Mrs. Cullinan shortens Angelou's name to "Mary" instead of using her full name, it symbolizes a lack of respect and acknowledgment of her identity. At this point, Angelou sees that Mrs. Cullinan's privileged position comes at the expense of others, and she becomes more aware of the dynamics of power and race in their relationship. This shift marks a deeper understanding of Mrs. Cullinan's character and the societal structures that shape their interactions.