In Memoriam the speaker compares sorrow to a wife to illustrate that sorrow.

will always be with him?

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Is there supposed to be a period after "sorrow" in your question? What "Memoriam" are you refering to?

If I were the wife, I would not be flattered by this comparison.
Its written correctly. Its from the poem "In Memoriam" by Alfred Tennyson.

my first answer was that it is a friend
I don't understand what your question is, but here are some sites that may help you:

http://www.enotes.com/nineteenth-century-criticism/memoriam-alfred-lord-tennyson

http://www.sparknotes.com/poetry/tennyson/section8.rhtml
I apologize for misreading your question and not recognizing that is was about the Tennyson poem. The punctuation of the questoin made no sense.

You are correct that the poem is an elegy of mourning for the death of a young friend who was engaged to Tennyson's sister. He questions the existence of a God who cares about the fate of individuals. I also recommend Writeacher's link to the SparkNotes article.