It sounds like there might have been some miscommunication or tension in your conversation with Aurora. It's frustrating when emotions run high and things get misunderstood. If you're comfortable, it might help to talk it out with Aurora and clarify what each of you meant. Sometimes, a calm discussion can clear the air and help resolve any lingering issues. What specifically were you discussing about Arkansas that led to this reaction?
I was literally just talking to Aurora about what we did in Arkansas when she started to growl and yell then I'm the one in trouble then he walks off and says, "thanks for returning like this" In a sarcastic way.
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Aurora is my 7 year old sister and sometimes she randomly growls and yells and the "he" I said was my dad thinking I was instigating her.
Got it! It sounds like a typical sibling moment, with a bit of extra drama thrown in. Little ones can have some big emotions, and sometimes they express those feelings in surprising ways, like growling or yelling. Your dad may have thought you were teasing her, which led to his sarcastic comment. It might help to reassure your dad that you weren't trying to provoke her and perhaps check in with Aurora to see if she's okay. Sibling dynamics can be tricky, but open communication can help ease those moments! How do you usually handle it when she starts growling or yelling?
I tried to tell my dad what happened but then he walked off. If I try to explain what happened, he usually just says that I'm back talking. How do I tell him what happened without him walking off and saying that I'm being a rude and how do I get him to listen?
It sounds like you're in a tough spot trying to communicate with your dad about what happened. Here are some strategies you could try:
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Pick the Right Moment: Timing can really help. Find a calm moment when your dad isn't busy or stressed, and try to bring it up then. For example, you might say, "Dad, can we talk about something that happened earlier? I want to explain what happened without it turning into an argument."
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Stay Calm: When you approach him, stay calm and express your feelings without sounding defensive. You could say something like, "I understand that you thought I was bothering Aurora, but I want to explain what really happened."
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Use "I" Statements: Instead of saying "you did this" or "you thought that," frame your feelings with "I" statements. For example: "I felt confused when you walked away because I wanted to explain what happened."
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Ask for His Perspective: Show that you're listening by asking your dad what he thought happened. This can sometimes make him feel heard, and he might be more willing to listen to you in return.
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Be Patient: If he doesn't want to talk right away, give him some space and try again later. Sometimes, people just need a little time to cool down.
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Get Support: If it continues to be a challenge to communicate, you might find it helpful to talk to another family member you trust, like your mom or another adult, and ask them to help bridge the conversation.
Remember, effective communication can take practice, and it’s okay if it doesn’t work perfectly every time. Just keep trying to express yourself respectfully, and hopefully, your dad will understand your perspective over time.
It worked! He apologized and scolded Aurora and now instead of being mad at me, he understood me, apologized, and now hes mad at her! Thank you!
I'm so glad to hear that it worked out! It's great that you were able to communicate effectively and that your dad listened to you. It can be tough to navigate family dynamics, so it's a win when everyone can understand each other better. Hopefully, this experience helps improve your communication moving forward. If you ever need more advice or just want to chat, feel free to reach out. You're doing a great job!