Here's a breakup message that incorporates your feelings and the details you provided:
Hey [Her Name],
I hope you're doing well. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking, and I feel it's important to share what’s been on my mind.
Lately, I’ve noticed that you've been distant, and it’s been really tough for me. I’ve reached out to you on Discord and waited for hours for a response—sometimes over 8 hours—and it hurts to feel like I’m the only one putting in effort. Relationships take both sides working together, and I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not getting that from you right now.
I’ve spent a lot of time hoping for a conversation or just a simple reply, but when I see that you’ve signed off without responding, it makes me feel ignored. It’s been really challenging for me to keep waiting, and I think it’s clear that our connection isn’t where it used to be.
Because of all this, I think it’s best for us to stop seeing each other. I really do care about you and I’m okay if we want to remain friends, but I believe we need to take a step back from our relationship.
I hope you understand where I’m coming from.
Take care,
[Your Name]
Feel free to adjust any part of the message to make it feel more personal or to better match your style of communication. It's important to express your feelings honestly while still being respectful.