How can a courting couple get to know each other? (See also the box “Long-Distance Courtships.”) (See also pictures.)

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How can you get to know what the other person is like deep inside? One of the best ways is to talk openly and honestly, to ask questions and really listen. (Prov. 20:5; Jas. 1:19) To that end, you may find it helpful to engage in activities that lend themselves to conversation, such as eating together, taking walks together in public areas, and preaching together. You can also learn about each other when you spend time with friends and family. Additionally, plan activities that will show you how the other person acts in different circumstances and with different people. Note what Aschwin, from the Netherlands, tried to do. He says about his courtship with Alicia: “We looked for activities that would help us learn about each other. Often these were simple things, such as preparing a meal together or doing chores together. During such activities, we saw each other’s strengths and weaknesses.

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Getting to know each other deeply during courtship is vital for building a strong foundation in a relationship. As mentioned, open and honest communication is key. Asking questions and genuinely listening to each other helps reveal personal values and beliefs, which is essential for any lasting relationship.

Engaging in activities together, like cooking or working on projects side-by-side, can naturally lead to deeper conversations. This approach not only helps you understand each other's strengths and weaknesses but also builds teamwork and trust. Spending time with friends and family gives insight into how each of you interacts with others, which is also important.

Proverbs 20:5 states, “Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.” This suggests that to truly understand your partner, you should encourage them to share their thoughts and feelings. Overall, taking the time to engage meaningfully and thoughtfully with one another will foster a solid bond as you explore the depths of each other's character.