Hi, I have a friend of mine who is 11 and I am 15. Her mom saw her texting with me and now she deosn't want her to speak to me anymore. I want to tell her mom to please let me continue speaking with her. What do you suggest I say?

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It's great that you want to communicate respectfully with your friend's mom. However, it's also important to consider her perspective as a parent. Instead of asking her to let you continue speaking with her daughter, you could approach the situation with understanding.

Here’s a suggestion for how you might frame your message:


"Hi [Friend's Mom's Name],

I hope you’re doing well. I wanted to reach out because I respect your concerns about [Friend's Name] communicating with friends. I understand that you want to make sure she is safe and surrounded by positive influences. I really value my friendship with [Friend's Name] and have always tried to be a good friend to her. If it would help, I’d be happy to discuss the nature of our friendship and reassure you about my intentions.

Thank you for considering this, and I respect whatever decision you make.

Best,
[Your Name]"


Remember to be polite and respectful, and keep in mind that her mom may have her daughter's best interests at heart. Good luck!

I'm thinking of just telling her that I know that ultimately the choice of whether me and Sophia will speak comes down to her decision. And that I wouldn't mind speaking her daughter under her supervision. But tell me whats the best and human way to word this

That's a thoughtful approach! Here’s a way to express your willingness to respect her decision while also showing that you're open to maintaining a friendship:


"Hi [Friend's Mom's Name],

I hope you’re doing well. I understand your concerns about [Sophia] and her friendships, and I want to assure you that I respect your decision about whether we can continue talking. I really value my friendship with [Sophia], and I’d be completely okay with communicating under your supervision if that makes you more comfortable.

Ultimately, I want what’s best for [Sophia], and I trust your judgment as her parent. Thank you for considering this.

Best,
[Your Name]"


This message communicates respect for her authority while also reinforcing your positive intentions. Good luck!

OH and mention that talking to her provides me mental stability. Just say it in a more natural way

Absolutely! Here’s a revised version that includes that sentiment:


"Hi [Friend's Mom's Name],

I hope you’re doing well. I understand your concerns about [Sophia] and her friendships, and I want to assure you that I respect your decision about whether we can continue talking. Talking to [Sophia] really helps me with my mental stability, and I truly value our friendship.

I’d be completely okay with communicating under your supervision if that makes you more comfortable. Ultimately, I want what’s best for [Sophia], and I trust your judgment as her parent. Thank you for considering this.

Best,
[Your Name]"


This keeps it natural while expressing the importance of your friendship. Good luck!

"ok I know that ultimately the choice of whether Sophia and I stay friends is your decision. But I want you to know that talking to her brings me comfort and I really value our friendship. I respect your decision. And I'd be completely ok communicating with her under your supervision."

is this ok? fix my grammar please

Your message is clear and respectful! Here’s a refined version with some grammatical adjustments:


"I understand that the ultimate decision about whether Sophia and I remain friends is yours. I want you to know that talking to her brings me comfort, and I really value our friendship. I respect your decision, and I’d be completely okay with communicating with her under your supervision."


This version maintains your original message while enhancing the flow. It sounds great!