"Either you are for me or agsinst me."

is this a hasty generalization, begging the question, faulty cause, false dilemma, or faulty analogy.

can some 1 help me

http://academic.cuesta.edu/acasupp/as/404.htm

Scroll down and check out the either/or explanation. Whenever someone must choose between two things, it's called a dilemma. You'll need to decide if this fits.

You can also look up the different terms at http://www.answers.com

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Here is more information that might be helpful:

http://www.members.cox.net/dagershaw/lol/DecisionTrap.html

I hope this helps a little more. Thanks for asking.