My favorite example is the man who got a bad cold shortly after he was married. He pitifully asked his wife for orange juice. When she brought him a four-ounce glass of juice, he decided that she didn't love him. You see, when he was a sick as a child, his mother brought him big eight-ounce glasses of orange juice.
Your parents views on money, religion, and education will also influence how you get along with your spouse.
Can you think of any examples of how interactions with a partner or spouse may have been influenced by what you learned by observing other family members or even television? I know one example might be seeing your parents argue when you were a child. But I can't think of any other examples. Please help!
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My mother used to order me about what to do, which I did not like. Later, when my wife would tell me to do something even in the nicest way, I got feelings of hostility. We dealt with this by having her ask me question rather than giving commands, e.g., "Would you take out the garbage?" or "The garbage needs to be taken out." rather than "Take out the garbage."
Essentially the question and the first statement at least gives me the illusion of control.
Essentially the question and the first statement at least gives me the illusion of control.
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