Asked by Makayla
What advice does Proverbs offer regarding irreconcilable relationships and relationships that are unwise to continue?
restore the relationship at all costs
ignore the past and start fresh
pretend all is well and engage the other person
use the courts to obtain compensation
give what the other person demands to preserve the relationship
trust God and love our enemies
seek vengeance
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Correct reading of Proverbs: it does not urge reconciling “at all costs” or pretending everything is fine. The book’s wisdom emphasizes prudence: avoid fools and quarrels you cannot fix, pursue honest correction where possible, refuse vengeance, and leave ultimate justice to God.
From your list:
- Trust God and love our enemies — YES. Proverbs 25:21–22 (feed and give drink to an enemy) and Proverbs 20:22 (“Do not say, ‘I will repay’… the Lord will vindicate you”) teach kindness to enemies and leaving vengeance to God.
- Seek vengeance — NO. Proverbs repeatedly warns against taking revenge (see Proverbs 20:22; 24:29).
- Restore the relationship at all costs — NO. Proverbs values discretion; it also says to avoid fools and quarrels you can’t fix (e.g., Proverbs 14:7; 18:19; 21:19).
- Ignore the past and start fresh — NO. Proverbs stresses learning from history and instruction rather than simply forgetting wrongs.
- Pretend all is well and engage the other person — NO. Proverbs values truthful, wise speech and warns against flattery and false peace.
- Use the courts to obtain compensation — CAUTION/NO as a general rule. Proverbs warns against rushing into lawsuits and humiliating yourself (Proverbs 25:8–10); it favors wise, prudent handling of disputes.
- Give what the other person demands to preserve the relationship — NO. Proverbs does not endorse capitulation to preserve relationship; it counsels discretion, not unwise concessions.
Short summary: Proverbs encourages wise restraint, honest correction when appropriate, patience, kindness to enemies, and leaving vengeance to God — not blind reconciliation at any cost or vengeful action.
From your list:
- Trust God and love our enemies — YES. Proverbs 25:21–22 (feed and give drink to an enemy) and Proverbs 20:22 (“Do not say, ‘I will repay’… the Lord will vindicate you”) teach kindness to enemies and leaving vengeance to God.
- Seek vengeance — NO. Proverbs repeatedly warns against taking revenge (see Proverbs 20:22; 24:29).
- Restore the relationship at all costs — NO. Proverbs values discretion; it also says to avoid fools and quarrels you can’t fix (e.g., Proverbs 14:7; 18:19; 21:19).
- Ignore the past and start fresh — NO. Proverbs stresses learning from history and instruction rather than simply forgetting wrongs.
- Pretend all is well and engage the other person — NO. Proverbs values truthful, wise speech and warns against flattery and false peace.
- Use the courts to obtain compensation — CAUTION/NO as a general rule. Proverbs warns against rushing into lawsuits and humiliating yourself (Proverbs 25:8–10); it favors wise, prudent handling of disputes.
- Give what the other person demands to preserve the relationship — NO. Proverbs does not endorse capitulation to preserve relationship; it counsels discretion, not unwise concessions.
Short summary: Proverbs encourages wise restraint, honest correction when appropriate, patience, kindness to enemies, and leaving vengeance to God — not blind reconciliation at any cost or vengeful action.
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