These are worth reading:
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_causes_a_person_to_remain_in_an_abusive_relationship
You may want to peruse this library.
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/FAQ/1880
The answer to your question is not simple, and it varies from instance to instance. Abusive relationships are caused by two persons: the abuser, and the victim. Both have roles, and it is an interdependence.
Hello, I need help in finding some answers to this question? How are families both places of comfort, security, and nurture, and at the same time places of domination, conflict, and violence. Thanks
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But we don't really have to think of conflict, etc. as abusive. Granted, violence is as is domination.
In any group of people that are close to each other, especially ones that care about each other, there is always going ot be tension when they are around each other too much. If we're talking about violence or domination, then we're thinking of a different situation (which you did ask about. Just giving another angle to it).
On a very basic level, a family protects you from certain things - even an abusive family. You still generally get food, have a place to sleep at night (even if uncomfortably) and have clothes to keep you warm. So even an extremely disfunctional family does take care of these needs generally speaking. So we can see how a person can feel somehow secure in that environment, yet not trusting enough to be able to leave it for something better. There might be a feeling of "what if I don't even get those things I do need? I'll be worse off."
As stated before, the tension is there in all families. The problem arises when people don't know how to deal with that tension.
My thoughts on the subject. Others are welcome to disagree or expand on what I said. Just thinking off the top of my head on where I would start looking to investigate the answer.
Matt
In any group of people that are close to each other, especially ones that care about each other, there is always going ot be tension when they are around each other too much. If we're talking about violence or domination, then we're thinking of a different situation (which you did ask about. Just giving another angle to it).
On a very basic level, a family protects you from certain things - even an abusive family. You still generally get food, have a place to sleep at night (even if uncomfortably) and have clothes to keep you warm. So even an extremely disfunctional family does take care of these needs generally speaking. So we can see how a person can feel somehow secure in that environment, yet not trusting enough to be able to leave it for something better. There might be a feeling of "what if I don't even get those things I do need? I'll be worse off."
As stated before, the tension is there in all families. The problem arises when people don't know how to deal with that tension.
My thoughts on the subject. Others are welcome to disagree or expand on what I said. Just thinking off the top of my head on where I would start looking to investigate the answer.
Matt
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