Question

Which of the following is an example of a judger statement? More than one answer may be correct.
"I understand where you're coming from, but I'm not sure that approach is appropriate in
this case."
"I'm not sure I understand your approach. Can you please explain how you think this will
achieve our goals?"
"You aren't keeping the needs of the client in mind. Why aren't you doing a better job of
promoting their green initiatives?"
"I think you have a good start, but let's work together to find a solution that will get us to
our goals even sooner."

Answer 1

Judger statements are evaluative or blaming (especially toward a person or their actions). The judger examples are:

- "I understand where you're coming from, but I'm not sure that approach is appropriate in this case." — evaluative about the approach.
- "You aren't keeping the needs of the client in mind. Why aren't you doing a better job of promoting their green initiatives?" — directly blaming the person.

The others are not judger statements:
- "I'm not sure I understand your approach. Can you please explain how you think this will achieve our goals?" — a request for clarification.
- "I think you have a good start, but let's work together to find a solution that will get us to our goals even sooner." — collaborative and constructive.

If you want, I can suggest non-judging rephrasings for the first two.