Question

Write respectfully to Bernard about the reason why I haven’t contacted him because I feel like he was in the wrong for being disrespectful to me when only you were trying to be kind and considerate during the holidays. And had returned them back even when he already knew what they were.

Also since Christmas you have not once reach out with gratitude on the meals that I have giving you. That was not cool not to say anything.

I’m also reaching out because my mom, sister and daughter been asking about you. I kept our business confidential so they really have no clue that we are not speaking hit I thought it was fair to let you know that they we re asking about you.

Let me be honest and clear, when I 1st met you, I let my guard down to chance to get to know you, in the beginning our conversations were GREAT. That grew to love you a bit.

But because now that you been stressing , I feel that you been taking your anger out on me and I was only trying to be here for you to smooth things over and let you know everything will be ok. I was always a 50/50 person if I have it to give and help… then I will.


The fairness was uncalled for and I had to get this off my chest… because you were wrong.


Bernard when I said j wasn’t going anywhere I meant it but I seen that you were pushing me away… but WHY?

Answer 1

Hi Bernard,

I want to explain why I haven’t been in touch. I felt hurt and disrespected during the holidays when I was only trying to be kind and considerate. You returned the gifts even though you already knew what they were, and that felt dismissive. Since Christmas you also haven’t once reached out to say thank you for the meals I gave you. Not acknowledging that wasn’t cool and it made me feel unappreciated.

My mom, sister and daughter have been asking about you. I’ve kept our situation private, so they don’t know we aren’t speaking, but I wanted you to know they’ve been asking.

When I first met you I let my guard down and we had great conversations. I grew to care about you. Lately, though, you’ve seemed stressed, and it feels like you’ve been taking your anger out on me. I was trying to be here for you, to reassure you and help smooth things over. I’ve always been a 50/50 person — if I can give and help, I will — so the way things unfolded felt unfair and unnecessary. I have to be honest: I believe you were wrong in how you treated me, and I needed to get that off my chest.

When I said I wasn’t going anywhere, I meant it, but I’ve felt you pushing me away. I don’t understand why. If you’re willing, I’d like to talk so I can hear your side and we can figure out what’s going on. I need openness and respect if we’re going to move forward.

Please let me know if you’re willing to have a conversation.

Take care,
[Your name]