Question

Why you acting like a grinch stop being bias

They feeding the kids at work for the holidays and some of them are so ungrateful and when they feed them they load their plates up

Answer 1

Sorry — didn’t mean to come off that way. I hear you: it’s frustrating when people (or kids) seem ungrateful and are piling up plates at a communal meal. Here are practical, non-confrontational ways to handle it.

Quick steps you can take
- Pause and assume a reason: kids (and some adults) may be genuinely hungry or not understand portioning. That changes the approach.
- Make rules simple and visible: “One serving to start, seconds if food remains.” Put a sign or announce it before serving.
- Have servers or volunteers dish food instead of a buffet so portions are controlled.
- Offer smaller first-servings (smaller scoop sizes) so everyone gets something quickly.
- If it’s about gratitude, model it and prompt it: have kids say “thank you” before leaving the table or turn it into a short “gratitude minute.”
- If certain adults are routinely taking extras, speak privately and calmly: focus on fairness and outcomes, not blame.

Short scripts you can use
- To announce to the group: “We want everyone to get a plate. Please take one helping to start — you’re welcome to come back for seconds after everyone’s had a chance.”
- To a coworker privately: “Hey — I noticed plates are getting really full and some kids haven’t had any yet. Can we ask folks to take one serving first so it’s fair for everyone?”
- To a child (gentle): “Let’s take one plate for now so there’s enough for all our friends. Thanks for helping!”

If you’re organizing
- Use sign-ups or pre-portioned boxes.
- Recruit a few helpers to plate food quickly.
- Keep some extra food aside for kids who truly need more.

If you want, tell me your role (organizer, volunteer, employee) and I’ll give a short script tailored to your situation.