Question

What do I do if I just moved to a place and I meet a boy, Asher, and then we start school and we're in the same grade but his girlfriend, Kimmy, makes him act like I don't exist?

Answer 1

I’m sorry that’s happening — that’s a frustrating, awkward spot. Here’s a short plan you can pick from depending on whether you want friendship, to possibly date later, or just to protect yourself.

1) Decide what you want
- Friend? Be friendly but low-pressure.
- Interested in dating? Respect that he’s in a relationship now — don’t try to come between them.
- Just want to be treated like a person? You can be direct and set a boundary.

2) Keep your approach simple and kind
- Be friendly in class and group settings (smile, say hi, work on group projects).
- Don’t follow or corner him when his girlfriend is around — that looks like drama and can escalate things.

3) If he’s ignoring you and you want to address it
- In private, calmly say something like: “Hey, I thought we got along when we met. Lately it feels like you’re avoiding me — is everything okay?”
- If he says he’s just respecting his relationship, accept it. If he’s rude, you don’t need to chase an explanation.

4) If Kimmy is being mean or making him act like you don’t exist
- Don’t retaliate or gossip. Keep your responses polite and short: “I’m just trying to be friendly.”
- If she or others bully, document what happens and tell a trusted adult or school staff — bullying is not okay.

5) Protect your feelings and social life
- Put energy into other friends, clubs, sports, or classes where you can meet people who actually want to be around you.
- It stings — allow yourself to feel it, then distract and re-center: hobbies, family, new friends.

6) Know when to walk away
- If he consistently disrespects you or follows the girlfriend’s lead in cutting you off, step back. People who value you will show it.

If you want, tell me what outcome you’d prefer (friendship, maybe dating later, or just not being ignored) and I can help you draft what to say.