Question

Ryder is best friends with Zoe. Lately, Zoe has been exhibiting risky behavior. She stays out late, sneaks out from her parents’ home, and occasionally uses drugs and alcohol. One night, Zoe asks Ryder to join her at a party. She stresses how much fun it will be and says that she could introduce Ryder to some new people. Zoe mentions a few names, and Ryder recognizes at least one of them as a gang member.

What should Ryder do in this situation?

express concern for Zoe’s well-being and encourage her to skip the party
ignore what he realizes and hang out with Zoe at the party
pass through the party for only 10 minutes to make sure there are no drugs
attend the party with Zoe to protect her from potential danger

Answer 1

Express concern for Zoe’s well‑being and encourage her to skip the party.

Why: going to a party where there are drugs and people linked to gangs puts Ryder and Zoe at real risk. Saying no and urging Zoe to stay home or do something safer avoids exposing either of them to harm.

How to do it:
- Use calm, nonjudgmental language (e.g., “I’m worried about you. I don’t want either of us to get into trouble or get hurt.”).
- Offer an alternative (suggest a low‑risk plan: a movie, coffee, hanging out at home).
- Set a boundary: be clear you won’t attend parties where there are drugs or people who make you uncomfortable.
- If Zoe is in immediate danger or continues risky behavior, involve a trusted adult, school counselor, or emergency services. If she’s open, encourage professional help or support resources for substance use.

Avoid trying to “police” the situation at the party or briefly checking it out — that still puts both of you at risk.