Question

Write an urban letter to your boyfriend. Vent on your feeling on how he listens to his music on the way home after his shift while heading home is more important that speaking to you on the phone briefly. You always get the short end of the stick and yet alone you all done speaks quality time alone as it is because of work schedules. Yea I was upset but I continue to work through b this.

Answer 1

Babe,

I gotta get something off my chest ’cause it’s been on repeat in my head. After your shift, when you’re riding home and you put your music on full blast — I see you choosing to zone out instead of spending two minutes to call me. That little window, even if it’s just 5–10 minutes, is huge to me. With our schedules the way they are, those tiny moments are sometimes the only time we can connect, and it stings that I always seem to get the short end of that stick.

I don’t want to be dramatic — I know music calms you and I respect that. I know you need to decompress. But it feels like I’m not part of that decompression. It feels like your headspace excludes me, and that hurts more because we already don’t get much alone time. I come home hopeful for a call or even a quick “on my way” text, and most nights I get silence instead. I’m upset about it, yeah, but I’m still here, still trying to work through this because I love you and I want us to be better.

I’m not asking for a long conversation every night. Just a small compromise: a quick voice note, a minute on the phone, a “I’m coming” text, or even share a song and say why it reminded you of me. That little thing would mean a lot and make me feel seen before we go back to the grind. If music is your headspace, let me be part of that headspace sometimes — or let me know when you need to be alone so I don’t take it personal.

I’m speaking up because I want us to last, not because I want to pick a fight. I miss you. I want to feel like you miss me too.

Love,
[Your Name]