Question

This guy wants me to prove I like him. Help me, idk what to do

Answer 1

Totally understandable — being asked to “prove” you like someone can feel weird or pressuring. I can help. A few quick questions that will make my advice better: do you actually like him? Are you comfortable with him asking this? Is he asking playfully or insisting/pressuring? If you want, tell me how close you are (just met, friends, dating, etc.).

Meanwhile, here are practical approaches depending on how you feel and what you want:

If you do like him and are comfortable showing it
- Be direct and verbal: say it plainly. Example: “I like you. I enjoy spending time with you and I want to see where this goes.” Short, clear, low-drama.
- Show it with consistent behavior: initiate texts sometimes, make plans, remember details about him, follow up after something important happens in his life.
- Make time and plans: suggest a few specific dates/activities (“Want to grab dinner Friday?”). Making future plans signals interest more clearly than vague compliments.
- Small affectionate gestures: compliments, light touch if appropriate (hand on back, holding hands), leaning in, eye contact and smiling.
- Introduce him to people who matter to you or accept introductions to his friends/family — that’s a big sign of seriousness.
- Be vulnerable: share something personal about yourself. Emotional openness builds trust and shows you care.

If you like him but aren’t ready to “prove” everything
- Set a pace: “I like you, but I don’t want to be put on trial for it. I’m happy to show I care, but I don’t do tests.”
- Offer a compromise: “Let’s go on more dates and see how things develop — I don’t need to prove anything right now.”
- Use small, steady actions rather than dramatic demonstrations.

If you don’t like him or aren’t sure
- Be honest and kind: “I don’t feel the same way” or “I’m not sure yet and I don’t want to be pressured into proving anything.”
- Ask for time: “I need a little time to see how I feel. I don’t like tests — can we just spend more time together first?”
- If you’re not interested, don’t string him along just to avoid confrontation.

If the request feels like pressure or a red flag
- Call it out: “It makes me uncomfortable when you ask me to prove my feelings. I won’t do tests.”
- Set a boundary: “Either trust me, or we need to talk about why you feel you need proof.”
- If he keeps insisting, consider whether this is controlling behavior. Your feelings and boundaries matter — seek support from friends or family if you feel pressured or unsafe.

Short sample lines you can use
- If you want to be straightforward: “I like you. I enjoy being with you and want to see where this goes.”
- If you want to slow things down: “I like you, but I don’t respond well to tests. Can we just hang out and see how things grow?”
- If you’re unsure: “I’m not sure yet. Let’s go on a few more dates and I’ll be honest about how I feel.”
- If you don’t like him: “I don’t feel the same way. I don’t want to lead you on.”

Want help drafting a message for a specific situation? Tell me whether you like him, how he’s asking for proof, and whether you want to be direct, gentle, or playful — I’ll write a few tailored lines you can use.